Hantering van aggressie by kleuters en laerskool kinders.
Frances Smit • July 18, 2019
Riglyne om aggressie te hanteer:
- Wanneer ʼn kind jou of iemand anders slaan, buk af tot op die kind se vlak, kyk hom of haar in die oë en sê duidelik "Moet nie aan ander slaan nie".
- Erken die kind se gevoelens van aggressie, bv "ek kan sien dat jy nou kwaad is, maar dis nie hoe ons maak as ons kwaad is nie"
- Wanneer die kind afgekoel het, verduidelik aan hom of haar waarom die gedrag onaanvaarbaar is.
- Moedig jou kind aan om ʼn gepaste manier steeds te kry wat hy wil hê, deur byvoorbeeld daarvoor te vra of te verduidelik hoe hy voel.
- Kinders moet nie verbied word om hul woede uit te druk nie, maar eerder aangemoedig word om dit op ʼn konstruktiewe manier uit te druk.
- Wees ʼn rolmodel vir jou kind en demonstreer nie-aggressiewe oplossings.
Prys en moedig positiewe gedrag aan:
- Wanneer ʼn kind goed optree, buk af, glimlag en sê, " ek is trots op jou omdat jy so mooi opgetree het"
- Beskryf die positiewe gedrag wat jy waargeneem het bv "Ek het agter gekom dat jy jou boetie eerste ʼn beurt gegee het, of jou speelgoed met hom gedeel het, dit was baie mooi van jou gewees"
Hantering van woede uitbarstings of " tantrums"
Voor die tyd:
- Praat met die kind oor wat van hom in die situasie verwag gaan word, staaf verwagtinge in positiewe terme, bv " Ons gaan nou winkel toe gaan, ek wil hê jy moet heeltyd by my bly" in plaas van "jy mag nie rondhardloop nie".
- Praat met jou kind indien daar ʼn verandering in sy daaglikse roetine gaan wees, sodat hy duidelik weet wat om te verwag.
- ʼn Moeë kind is baie moeiliker om te hanteer, maak daarom seker dat jou kind altyd uitgerus is en genoeg slaap gekry het.
- Ignoreer die uitbarsting indien moontlik.
- Bly kalm en probeer om geen reaksie te wys nie. Sê net duidelik "Nee, dis verkeerd".
- Moet nie ingee vir sy eise nie.
- Sê vir jou kind "ek gaan wag tot jy afgekoel het".
- Praat met jou kind oor sy gedrag, kritiseer slegs die gedrag en nie die kind met bv "daai skree geluide klink baie lelik", "dit lyk nie mooi as jy so maak nie".
- Verduidelik hoekom die gedrag onaanvaarbaar is en dat hy niks daarmee gaan bereik nie.
- Gesels oor alternatiewe maniere om dit in die toekoms te hanteer.
- Gesels oor gevolge indien dit weer gebeur en beloning indien dit nie herhaal word nie.
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