Help Jou Kind Om Te Leer Uit Hul Pyn!
Antoinette Steyn • April 21, 2020
Wanneer ons kinders seerkry dan is ons eerste reaksie daarop om te troos, om raad te gee of om die situasie te probeer verander. Hoeveel keer veroorsaak ons dat ons kinders uitmis op waardevolle groeigeleenthede omdat ons hulle net altyd probeer red. Hoeveel keer ontneem ons hulle gevolglik van ongelooflike groei geleenthede.
Ons word deur talle motiveringsboeke en selfs deur onderwysers op skool aangemoedig om ‘n 5 jaar en uiteindelik ‘n 10 jaar plan vir onsself op te stel. Die tipiese uiteensetting van so ‘n plan sal insluit wat jy as mens wil bereik in die lewe, watter beroep jy wil navolg en watter kennis jy wil opbou. Soveel mense bereik nooit hierdie doelwitte nie omdat hul die reis aanpak deur al hul bagasie van die verlede en vooropgestelde opinies saam te dra en streef om ‘n wêreld gedefinieerde bestemmings te wil bereik. As jou plan vir jou lewe nie gefokus is op persoonlike ontwikkeling van jou as mens wat insluit, jou denkwyses, emosionele intelligensie en die belangrikste, jou geloof, sal jy maklik mismoedig raak en dalk nooit hierdie doelwitte bereik nie.
Dink bietjie aan die lewenservaring wat jy al tot dusver opgedoen het. Ek is seker jy sal met my saamstem dat negatiewe dinge in jou lewe van die waardevolste lewenslesse aan jou gebied het. Talle mense maak die fout om hul eie-waarde te definieer aan die hand van slegte ervaringe. Elke fout wat jy maak, bied egter ʼn groeigeleentheid, welke groei slegs kan plaasvind indien jy doelbewus kies om volgende keer nie weer dieselfde fout te maak nie en ook om te leer uit jou seerkry.
Jy is nie ‘n mislukking net omdat jy al met iets misluk het nie. Die Psigoloog Dr. Joyce Brothers het gesê: “Iemand wat geïnteresseerd is in sukses, moet leer om mislukkings te beskou as ʼn gesonde, onvermydelike deel van die proses om bo uit te kom.” Die geheim van enige suksesverhaal lê daarin om ten spyte van wat gebeur, nooit op te gee nie.
Dit is belangrik om in ag te neem dat wanneer jy iets in jou lewe identifiseer wat jy wil verander, dat jy altyd by jouself moet begin. Talle mense maak die fout om te dink dat hul eerstens hul omstandighede moet verander terwyl, in werklikheid jy as mens eers moet verander voor jou omstandighede hoegenaamd sal verander. Die grootste deel van die mens se leefwêreld bestaan in sy/haar eie gedagtes. Dit is juis wanneer ons kies om op te hou groei of om nie ons gedagtes te verander na ʼn meer positiewe en hoopvolle ingesteldheid nie, wat die lewe baie moeilik en uitdagend raak.
Ek kies om my kind toe te laat om te misluk. Ek kies om hom toe te laat om soms te worstel met die stukkies van sy lewenslegkaart en om dit self te probeer aan mekaar te sit. Ek kies egter ook om seker te maak hy weet dat ek nogsteeds altyd daar is vir hom.
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