Selfbeheersing Is Van Groter Waarde As Wat Ons Besef
Antoinette Steyn • May 4, 2020
‘n Gebrek aan selfbeheersing is een van die redes waarom mense konstant besig is. Mense sonder selfbeheersing sê gewoonlik ja vir alles wat ander van hulle verwag. Wanneer jy nie selfbeheersing het nie is jy ook soms geneig om al jou energie te bestee daaraan om ander gelukkig te maak. Selfbeheersing is ook ʼn vaardigheid wat ons sonder om te skroom aan ons kinders moet leer.
Ons mate van self-beheersing speel ʼn groot rol in die keuses wat ons maak. Talle navorsingsprojekte het al bewys dat self-beheersing een van die grootste voorspellers van sukses in die lewe is. Die vermoë om selfbeheersing te kan toepas is grotendeels afhanklik van dit waarop ons fokus. Fokus jy op dit wat vir jou onmiddellike tevredenheidstelling sal bied of fokus jy eerder op dit wat op die langtermyn vir jou meer gewenste en permanente resultate sal bied. Waarop ons fokus kan die uitslag van soveel dinge bepaal. Selfbeheersing is ook vir jou ‘n wyse om doelbewus te kies dat jy nie sal vaskyk in die reus op jou pad nie maar sal weet wie agter jou staan en waar jou krag werklik vandaan kom.
Om dit perspektief te gee is dit interessant om so ʼn bietjie na Goliat te kyk. Daar word heelwat inligting oor Goliat gegee in die boek van 1 Samuel. Die beskrywings van Goliat verskil aan die hand van die verskillende antieke tekste maar hy was op die minste amper sewe voet of meer as 2 meter lank en dalk selfs soveel as 9 voet lank. Dit is egter belangrik om te onthou dat Saul beskryf was as ‘n groot man wat ‘n kop langer as die ander manne gestaan het. Dus self reeds oor 6 voet lank. Saul was bevrees vir Goliat wat mens die idee kan gee dat Goliat inderdaad baie groot was. Ons weet presies hoe lank hy was want die Siloam Tonnel is aangeteken as 1200 el lank. Ons kan die tonnel vandag nog meet. Dit is 533 meter lank. Goliat word beskryf as 6 el en ‘n span. Dit beteken hy was 9 voet ses duim of 2.89m lank. Nie net was hy lank nie maar ook swaar gebou en geweldig sterk. Die ander aanduiding van Goliat se statuur was die grootte van sy wapens en bewapening. Sy borswering alleen het 5000 sikkels koper geweeg. Die gewig van ‘s sikkel is bekend en was tussen 11 en 12 gram aldus die “New Bible Dictionary”. Dit beteken dat sy borswering alleen by die 60 kilogram geweeg het. Dit sluit nie sy helm of been uitrusting in nie. ‘n Moderne koeëlvaste baadjie met kevlar en keramiek plate in XL grootte weeg omtrent 9kg! Die punt van sy spies het 6.83 kilogram gewees. Die spies was gebruik om aanvallers op ‘n naby afstand af te weer en te steek en ook om houe af te weer. Die spies moes dus vinnig en behendig hanteer en beweeg kon word. Goliat was nie net ‘n goed opgeleide soldaat nie maar was boonop die kampioen van die Filistyne. Hy kon dus behendig en effektief veg met al hierdie swaar wapenrusting. Hy was hulle beste soldaat en het die hoogtepunt van militêre tegnologie van sy dag verteenwoording. Dawid aan die ander kant was ‘n jong skaapwagter. Hy was wel nie totaal weerloos nie maar sou eers later in sy lewe die opleiding van ‘n soldaat ontvang. Hy was dus nie opgelei om te veg nie. Hy het geen bewapening aangehad nie en kon nie eers Saul sin dra nie omdat dit te swaar was. Hy was dus nog lig gebou as jong man. Hier was hy bereid om in die teenwoordigheid van die totale Israelse en Filistynse weermagte met hulle beste soldaat te veg ten einde die uitkoms van die hele oorlog te bepaal. Wat het dit nie geverg om sy gedagtes in hierdie omstandigede te beheer nie?
Ons behoefte om iets te bereik, iets te bekom of iets te herstel is soms so groot dat ons impulsief sal drink van elke fontein wat op ons pad kom sonder om te besef dat ons onsself so vergiftig. Jy moet weet wie jy is, wat jou visie is en waarheen jy oppad is, sodat jy jouself in kleiner versoekinge kan beheer en jou oog kan hou op dit wat werklik vir jou saak maak. John Assaraf stel dit mooi deur te sê: “Jy moet jou emosies en dit wat jy glo tot so ‘n mate opgradeer dat die in lyn is met jou visie en jou doelwitte”.
‘n Bekende aanhaling lui “As jy vir niks staan nie sal jy vir enigiets val.” ʼn Gemiddelde aanbod of tydelike bevrediging sal altyd vir jou aanloklik lyk indien jy nie oor selfkennis met betrekking tot jou eie-waarde beskik nie en nie selfbeheersing kan toepas nie.
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